Oct 21

Dealing with Fear

Not all fear is unhealthy. There are times when my instinct told me, through fear, that I was about to make a mistake that will run my day.

I don’t like going out, reporting to work. I was copying my files onto a portable hard disk to bring to work. I usually work at home, you see, going to work only to submit my files. Except that this time, I had a pang of fear accompanied with the idea that the files I was copying to my hard disk were corrupted. I didn’t listen to it. I should have.

By the time I got to the office, and started copying my files onto my office computer, only then did I find out that the files were corrupted. I had traveled all the way to work for nothing. One wasted day.

I guess it was perfectly alright, since I learned how to listen to my instinct that day. All I lost was time. A lot of people learn this lesson the hard way.

I sometimes get lazy when communicating with my angels, you see. I start assuming things instead of asking detailed questions to make sure I get the message correctly. I misinterpreted my fear, took the wrong precautions, and went on my way.

So now, whenever I feel a pang of fear, I try to remember that I’m not alone. I have my angels with me, and they know the way, but they can’t help me unless I ask.

Anyway, the reason I decided to talk about dealing with fear today, is because I finally understood something. I was taught to deal with my fears by playing computer games. You know, those really simple games where you just click your mouse all day. And I finally understood how it works.

If you watch the Dog Whisperer, Cesar Milan deals with dogs with fear issues using one technique – he puts the dog on a treadmill and makes it walk in place, while presenting scary things to it. He plays sounds the dog is scared of, like lightning, over the speakers. He hangs balloons overhead and pops them one by one. Over time, the dog realizes that nothing bad happens when he experiences these things, and relaxes. But what really makes the fear go away is the walking, which forces the dog’s brain to go forward even in the presence of these scary things happening all around him.

Playing the clicking games do the same things for humans. You win, you lose, scary things happen like losing a lot of “money” or getting “killed”, but at the end, you’re still sitting safely in front of the computer, and absolutely nothing harmful can come to you. And all that clicking keeps your brain going forward.

Even when nothing scary is happening in the game, my angels present my scary past events to my subconscious, and while I play, past memories cross my mind. But I keep on clicking, and eventually the negative memory and the emotions associated with it play themselves out.

So all work and no play makes Mike a dull boy!

You know this “computer game therapy” is working when you’re less stressed, your creativity increases, you’re having more fun with your life. You smile more often. You’re less paranoid. And you’re a lot more relaxed talking about your past.


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