Navigating the Stages of Emotional Clearing
by Nicole Canter
April 7, 2003

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Have you ever found yourself in the midst of a painful emotional issue and couldn’t find your way out? Ever had one of those times when you thought you were done clearing it only to find yourself right back in it? I have and I don’t know about you but I find emotional clearing to be hairy, scary stuff. It’s like trying to find your way through a jungle full of quick sand pits and deep cavernous holes – one needs a really good, really detailed map. Throughout my childhood and into my adult life, I got stuck in the quick sand many times because I didn’t know how to navigate the stages of emotional clearing. So how do we move through the stages of emotional clearing? And just what is it?

Emotional Clearing

Emotional clearing the process by which you peel off the layers of your emotional blocks, transmuting dense energies of anger, shame, and guilt etc., contained in each layer into compassion. Those layers are kept repressed and sealed in our emotional body until they are released to come to the surface (triggered into action) through the conflicts that come our way. At that point we become conscious of them. 

Stages of Emotional Clearing

Once the energies formerly held with in a layer have reached the surface, we begin the process of clearing them.  This clearing involves moving through a series of stages that enable us to physically and emotionally release those energies from our body while at the same time, integrating the fear which is at the root of them and learning the lesson involved.  Whew!  That was a long sentence! 

Sometimes the clearing is mild because the stuck energies are mild but sometimes the clearing is very painful, escalating into a full-blown conflict with someone. Let me just say that regardless of whether it is mild or major it ain’t easy! It’s like trying to climb up out of one of those very big, very deep holes!

Why would we want to do emotional clearing?

That’s a really good question. There are many payoffs to emotional clearing. One is ascension—we must lighten our bodies in order to ascend and we can do this through releasing old stuck energies that make it dense. We do it in order to have better more satisfying relationships. We do it in order to have greater mental and emotional health. 

Thanks to months and months of painful lessons with my husband Shaun I have finally learned to navigate the stages of emotional clearing - at least enough to write this article. All that I can say is bless Shaun’s heart for hanging in there with me. It has been a challenge to say the least!  Clearing with one’s partner can be very frustrating because we’re constantly being forced to look at a mirror of ourselves. We can’t get away! Over and over we demand to know why we would have agreed to this pain and agony. Once we figure out that this is a process and we see the higher perspective, we’re able to move forward with a little more ease and grace each time.